For many women in their fifties, life takes on a new chapter. The kids are grown, careers are established, and there’s a newfound freedom to explore. My path is different. In my fifties I am a single parent of an 8-year-old boy with ADHD, who is still living in a rented room and working from home for an NGO media. Still, I find life such a blessing. And, equally important, I have my tattoos.
I am not alone. The number of women with tattoos in Indonesia are increasing. This may be part of the trend of women reclaiming their bodies and identities through the beautiful and symbolic art that is tattoos. For a long time, tattoos have often been associated with youth and rebellion. But the new wave of women with tattoos shatter those stereotypes. Their decision to get inked isn’t about defying societal norms. Rather it’s about embracing their confidence and self-worth. And I am one of these women.
I love Indonesian traditional ornament tattoos, although so far I only have four of them on my body. That’s why I jumped instantly to the opportunity when I saw Ade Itameda’s announcement about his project “Bali Project Volume 1” in his Instagram account: @adeitameda.
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Ade was looking for individuals who are passionate about Balinese culture and interested in having a large part of their skin adorned with traditional Balinese ornaments pepatraan and keketusan. I know that Ade is one of a few respected tattoo artists with his amazing works of Indonesian ornaments especially wayang (the traditional Javanese shadow puppet) and barong (a panther-like creature in Balinese mythology). And now he has this special project, such a great project if I would be included!? And I am!
Balinese ornaments are more than decoration and beautiful design. They’re a visual language steeped in cultural significance. Each intricate curl, each floral motif carries stories of gods, nature, and the delicate balance that defines Balinese life. A well-crafted Balinese ornament tattoo like a one-sleeve scale beautifully inked by Ade becomes a conversation starter, a source of pride. It sparks dialogues about culture, heritage, and personal journeys.
For me, this particular tattoo featuring the intricate patterns of pepatraan (floral motifs) or keketusan (protective symbols), becomes the physical manifestation of my new chapter. I am reclaiming the narratives of power and resilience. Pepatraan are often associated with beauty and growth, and can further means celebration of the feminine spirit. These tattoos aren’t about rebellion; they’re about self-acceptance and a vibrant expression of womanhood.
Tattoo is a way of reclaiming my body and celebrating my journey. The spiritual and philosophical Balinese life depicted in the tattoos are not only an inspiration but a way of living in the Balinese concept of Tri Hita Karana, “Three causes of prosperity and happiness”. These three aspects are: Harmony with the Divine; Harmony among people; and Harmony with nature and the environment.
But also, let’s be honest, tattoos are fun! Getting a tattoo can be exhilarating! It’s a chance to step outside your comfort zone and create something beautiful and permanent. Unlike a painting hanging on a wall, tattoo is a collaborative work of art. The process of getting inked can be a thrilling, transformative experience. Working closely with tattoo artist, choosing specific motifs and imbuing them with personal meaning, this co-creation process is empowering. It allows both (the one being inked and the one tattooing) to express their individuality and craft, a tattoo that reflects their unique experiences and values.
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This newfound confidence is a remarkable byproduct of adorning your body with a piece of artistry. The three visit to the studio, each running about six hours long to complete a sleeve tattoo are also an exciting experience for my boy. Aside from the fact that he got to enjoy some additional screen time, he was introduced to the tattoo art. He witnessed the process and even learned to trace the tiger drawing, thanks to Ade’s generosity to engage him.
When each session ended and a piece of tattoo was finished, at our rented room before we went to bed, my son always looked at it with admiration.
“The tattoo is beautiful, Mom!” he said, instantly melting my heart.
In my fifties, I am experiencing a heart-opening event, embracing the vibrant world of the Balinese ink. Getting a tattoo is a powerful statement that age is just a number, and beauty and self-expression know no bounds. So, if you’re a woman considering a Balinese ornament tattoo, I say go for it! It’s about connecting with tradition, celebrating individuality, and owning your own narrative. And it’s simply FABULOUS!
Ade Kusumaningrum is a single queer mom living in Bali. Culture and environment are not only two important issues but way of life.
